No tricks in that headline. Just legitimately good life advice from T Swift.
Ok maybe you don’t play TayTay every time you need a pick-me-up. (But I do)
Maybe you don’t judge your nieces for only liking her new stuff and not appreciating the country years. (But I do).
And maybe you missed the clever reference to Begin Again in those last two lines. (But I do. And if you didn’t, you’re kind of a loser).
But let me assure you, there is some solid sense to be found in Taylor’s music, and I offer it to you here. You’re welcome.
I Knew You Were Trouble – We all know those people. They come into our lives, sweeping us up in romance and excitement, but in our hearts we know it’s going to end badly.
This is because we don’t listen to our gut: that inner voice telling us that something’s not right.
And if you’re facing a financial decision that feels a little … off, then it’s telling you something.
The people who lose money to financial scams, poor advice or just super risky investments probably had that moment of thinking I knew you were trouble when you walked in.
The key is to school yourself on the basics of money e.g.:
- The higher the return, the higher the risk. Know your risk appetite and work from there.
- If it sounds too good to be true, then it is.
- Always find out who’s getting paid, and how much, when a product is recommended. It explains a lot.
It’s easy to be bamboozled by all the information out there. But trusting your own research, and your own gut, can actually be really empowering.
Bad Blood – A classic tale of love/friendship gone wrong. You just never know when things will turn sour and you have to create a secret society of female assassins. Or maybe just leave a dodgy relationship.
The key lesson is that whatever ‘mad love’ you had, be ready in case it turns to ‘bad blood’. Have an emergency fund, keep some of your finances separate, and always know what’s happening with the money going in and out of your accounts.
Read this post for more: The single biggest risk to your money is probably not what you think
I Did Something Bad – We all did, didn’t we? We spent too much on a new dress that wasn’t remotely on sale. We didn’t do our tax return for far too long. We ignored our super for years and paid way too many fees. Whatever your guilty secret – big or small, low-grade or serious stuff-up – it’s ok!
A lot of us get caught up in the guilt and shame spiral, which makes it hard to act. You had a spending blowout, so you think bugger it, I’ll keep going. You didn’t do last year’s tax, so you may as well not do this year’s. You lost track of your super and now you figure it’s too hard to find.
How do I know this? I did it myself. Confession time. My life admin was a mess after my divorce. It started when someone changed the locks on my house and ‘couldn’t find’ a bunch of my paperwork. It ended up with me totally overwhelmed by my tax.
In the end, after much proscrastination and a kind and supportive accountant, I sorted it out, and the relief was amazing.
If you’ve done something bad – or, more likely, not done something good – then take my advice. Just do one thing. Send one email. Call one super fund. Compare one insurance quote. Whatever it is, just getting started is both the hardest and the easiest thing you’ll do.
Shake it Off – The social conditioning of the patriarchy, that is. Yeah, shake off the shit that people might talk about you.
But more importantly, try and catch yourself believing the bullshit that the world teaches young girls and that we drag into adult life. Here I present a random list of beliefs you should shake off, Taylor Swift style:
- That you’re no good with money – you totally are, in the same way you can be good at winged eyeliner: with time, attention, a lot of practice and strong self-belief. (God I fucking nailed my eyeliner today. I’ve come a long way).
- That investing is too hard and risky to tackle – you know what’s a risky investment? Waiting for that fuckboy you’re dating to turn into a fully-fledged human person. If you’re willing to invest time into something like that, with little-to-no chance of success, imagine investing some money into something like the sharemarket, which most definitely goes up far more than it goes down.
- That finance is just too boring to bother with – sure, a lot of the finance information out there is boring. But not all of it. And if you can spend an hour on The Iconic looking for the perfect short-sleeve turtleneck (I didn’t find it btw), then you can read some stuff about money. Check out some women-friendly resources like Financy or Ellevest.
These are just some of the limiting beliefs that we can hold us back. Try and police your own negative thoughts, and see if you can shake them off!